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By Ronnie Toofan
Last weekend, my wife and I got glued to this TV series called Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. It’s basically about a woman who has an above average IQ, but keeps making really crazy choices in her life. She’s so broken inside that she even takes advice from a butter commercial. I couldn’t blame her though because the taglines were kinda deep, like, “When was the last time you felt truly happy?” and “Are you making healthy choices in your life?”
It got me thinking that if you’re in such a miserable situation and have no idea what to do, the two questions above would really strike you like an arrow to your heart, Bon Jovi style and everything. While most of us want to find happiness, only few people know where to look, and how. And while most of the time, we know the answer to our questions, others just choose to ignore the things that they’re supposed to do.
Here are some signs that you are guilty of sabotaging your own peace and joy and how you can open your mind to let the sunshine back in.
You Are Never Satisfied
You have a loving partner that takes good care of you, you have a good job that provides for you and you have friends who are always there for you when you’re down. But despite having all these things in your life, you still feel troubled and lost. You are still constantly chasing happiness and looking for that one thing that could change your life.
You might want to consider that perhaps the reason why you are never content is because you are looking for a magic pill that doesn’t exist. To stop being miserable, you have to pursue the right kind of happiness – the type that provides long-term satisfaction, the kind that makes your soul grow.
In the piece “Everyone is Obsessed With Happiness – Here’s Why It’s Making Us Miserable,” writer Mark Denicola explains the importance of focusing on making consistent time for what makes you happy in order to accomplish the things you want in life.
Choose to pursue peace, as it comes from within and can be attained and sustained much more easily.
You Don’t Make Time for the Right Things
You waste your time thinking how everything is going down instead of finding ways to bring things back up. You are distracted by many things and engaging in activities that don’t contribute to your well-being and personal growth.
Guys, make time for the right things. Take action and take advantage of your resources to help set yourself up for success. Rather than complicating your life and occupying your attention with unimportant and useless thoughts, focus your time on practicing healthy habits that will clear your foggy thinking.
To wake up refreshed and ready to take on the day, check this out – “3 Things You Should never Do Before Bed.”
If you’re a social media junkie like me, you know how YouTube, FB and IG can delay your sleep time and disrupt your biological rhythm. So, if you want to break free from your dependence and reclaim your bed, do the first thing on the list at least one hour before you sleep.
You Spend Too Much Time Thinking About the Past
You fail to live in the moment because you’re always busy worrying about your past. You’re allowing your regrets, mistakes and failures to hold you back from moving on and starting a new chapter of your life.
Guys, the past can’t be changed or relived. So, the best thing that you can do is to just learn from it and live in the present.
In love, for instance, many people let themselves become a casualty of their past relationships. As a result, they become obsessed over their ex’s flaws instead of evaluating their own. They give up on love rather than finding ways to be a better partner and improve the quality of their next relationship.
After a breakup, invest your time in improving your confidence and self-worth. Start your rebound with a commitment to make things better than the last time by figuring out what kind of partner you would like to become, what kind of person you want to be with and what your priorities are.
You Settle for Things that Are Quick & Convenient
You don’t push yourself to the limits and you are contented being unchallenged and unchanged. I’m sorry to inform you, my friend, but there is no growth and progress in settling for less in life.
You have to take risks, leave your comfort zone and explore uncharted territories to find opportunities and create a meaningful existence.
So, if you’re current job is not aligned with your passion, if your work stress is taking a toll on your health and if you’ve reached the burnout point, then perhaps you should rethink your nine to five and start updating your resume.